Weight Loss Surgery – LapBand Living 101: STUCK!

Welcome to the wonderful world of lapband life. :-)

I had weight loss surgery, and having had the lapband 2 1/2 years I am very familiar with being “stuck”. It can happen at any time, for any reason. I have eaten dense protein like chicken or steak and it went down just fine. then later that day I have attempted to eat Greek yogurt and it doesn’t want to go down. With the Lap-Band, restriction can vary from day to day, moment to moment. That is why I call my band a psycho band, lol.

  • What I usually do when I am stuck is to take some Papaya Extract. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t.

  • Coke is another option. Although carbonated beverages are generally frowned upon with most weight loss surgeries, this is an exception. The acid in it can break down the protein. It’s usually going to go down…….or come back up. Either way, it’s a plus. Staying stuck is not a good thing!

  • Fluids in general can sometimes dilute it and push it on down. Since I am now used to following the “band rules” and not drinking with meals or for 30 minutes after, I wouldn’t do this initially because I thought I needed to wait 30 minutes after it finally went down to drink. Don’t hesitate though, if you’ve been stuck for more than a few minutes, take a drink. It may help.

Last night I was stuck and I received a few suggestions while on the Facebook Weight Loss Surgery Revision Group that I  had not heard before to deal with this, so I thought I would share.


  • “It always helped me to walk around with my hands in the air… When your stuck you’ll try anything.”

  • “Hands up, head back, and jump around for a bit, hitting the ground hard. My family would laugh like hell but it was the only thing that worked. “

  • “ALWAYS keep those individual size cans of pineapple juice on hand. It’s only supposed to work with chicken but it worked for most foods when I was banded. It dissolves what is stuck. You wait until you vomit and the liquids are out of your stomach then you sip on the pineapple juice. OMG, why do I know this one so well!

Now one sad comment that i heard was this:


“It’s funny whenever I’d get my stuck look, my husband would automatically say ” arms up!” even our family goes through band hell”


My family knows that “stuck look” as well. And it saddens me that as much as I have gone through with my failed band, my family goes through this as well. I hate it when I ruin a nice dinner out with family or friends because after having no band issues all day, it will hit all of a sudden and then I can’t eat, or something gets stuck. As bad as this is though, I am grateful that I have not had some of the more painful band complications that so many other bandsters have had!

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Disney is certainly NOT the “Happiest Place On Earth” for overweight or obese children


Well Disney is certainly NOT the “Happiest Place On Earth” for overweight or obese children anymore. I am appalled by the post I read last night by Ragen from Dances With Fat! Disney’s latest attraction “Habit Heroes” where the enemies are “glutton” and “snacker“.



Deeply Disappointed in Disney


Everyday people send me posts about atrocities committed against people of size all over the word.  I get frustrated, I get angry, occasionally yell at my computer, but I usually don’t cry.

That changed today.  As I sat in the  airport in Gainesville reading an article about Disney’s latest attraction “Habit Heroes” I couldn’t stop the tears.

This is a new game at Epcot wherein kids meet their “Heroes” Will Power and Callie Stenics and fight with them against “Enemies” The Glutton, Lead Bottom and Snacker.

And as I type I’m crying again. Disney is my absolute favorite vacation place. It’s where my Best Friend and I go for a week at a time to bond, go on rides, and watch the Lion King Show.   So I’m heartbroken that we may have gone for the last time.  I won’t go back now (except possibly in protest) until they get rid of this.

But that isn’t why I’m crying, I’m crying because I know how excited kids get about Disney.  Disney is supposed to be the happiest place on Earth and now fat kids – who are subjected to a barrage of shaming, humiliating, stigmatizing, and bullying messages from society on a daily basis – will go on vacation and find out  kids who look like them are villains who other kids fight for points and bragging rights. Disney might as well just hold fat kids down and let park guests kick them?

At the end of the ride kids can have their picture taken and e-mailed to them.  So what happens when the kids (or their moms, friends) look like the “enemies? What happens to the vacation that they’ve been looking forward to since their parents first said “We’re going to Disney World!”?   Shaming kids does not lead to better health, why is that so hard to understand?  You can’t tell how healthy someone is, how much they exercise, or what they eat by looking at their bodies, you just can’t.

This ride is in partnership with Blue Cross and Blue Shield.  Regional Market President Tony Jenkins said:  “As an insurance company, we have the information kids need to be healthier.  Our challenge was to tell that story in a fun, engaging way, which is what Disney does.”  I think I might break my desk with my forehead.  What about their mental health? Do we really want to create more fear of being fat when we know that there’s been a 112% increase in the number of hospitalizations for children under 12, UNDER TWELVE, who have ED (eating disorders)?  The National Institute for Health just issued a statement that said that programs that shame kids:

carry a great risk of increasing stigma for those children who are overweight or obese which, in turn, can reinforce unhealthy behaviors (e.g., overeating). A number of research studies over the last decade have supported this concern. For example, studies suggest overweight children who are teased about their appearance are more likely to binge eat or use unhealthy weight-control practices, and weight-based victimization has been correlated with lower levels of physical activity. Not surprisingly, stigmatization of obese individuals, particularly adolescents, poses risks to their psychological health.

Other studies show the perception that obesity is solely a matter of personal responsibility, as opposed to understanding the complexity of contributing factors, can increase negative stereotypes of those overweight. It’s important, therefore, that public messages concerning obesity address this complexity when possible.

So the NIH is willing to admit that it doesn’t have all the answers for kids’ health, but Blue Cross Blue Shield thinks that they do?

I’m going to do something,I’m not sure what at this time.  I’m very tired now from 13 hours of travel, and deeply saddened that my vacation respite is ruined and that 44,000 people a day are being exposed to weight bigotry and body shaming by the so-called “Happiest Place on Earth”.  Should we petition, protest at Epcot , start a letter writing campaign? I’m open to suggestions…

You know, I understand where we are as a civil rights movement and I understand that there will be days like this but it doesn’t always make it easier.  In good news, our Georgia billboard campaign got a major article in Huffington Post, some of the commenters even get it!




So please share this post with EVERYONE. I know we all want Disney to return to being a place where overweight and obese kids CAN be at the “Happiest Place On Earth” again!

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Winner of the BSN Lean Dessert Protein Contest Is……….


The contest is over and the winner of the  2 containers of Lean Dessert Protein from BSN Online is……………..

Jenna Z!


Jenna Z says:

My sister’s German chocolate pecan pie is my all time favorite dessert! Her pie crust, all the chocolate and coconut and pecans! Yum!


Jenna Z  you have won the 2 containers of  Lean Dessert flavors. 




Lean Dessert comes in 6 creamy flavors!

  • Banana Nut Bread
  • Banana Cream Pudding
  • Whipped Vanilla Cream
  • Fresh Cinnamon Roll
  • Chocolate Fudge Pudding
  • Chocolate Coconut


These are all awesome flavors. Send me your contact info and let me know which two you prefer.


Congrats Jenna on being the winner of the
Lean Dessert Protein from BSN Online!

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Paula Deen From Bacon Dealer to Drug Dealer

Last year I featured an awesome post by Caroline Jhingory called Have You Ever Dated a Former Fat Girl? that listed her 10 Rules for Dating a Former Fat Girl. While reading over her blog recently I came across her article about Paula Deen. As most of you already know, Paula Deen is taking a lot of heat over promoting some very unhealthy food that can lead to diabetes. Well she has finally announced that she has diabetes, simultaneously announcing herself as spokeswoman for a diabetes drug.

Yes that’s right.

Paula Deen: From Bacon Dealer to Drug Dealer!



Food Network chef Paula Deen announced on the TODAY Show this morning that she has type 2 diabetes.  She also announced her partnership with drug company Novo Nordisk, the manufacturers of the anti-diabetes drug Victoza which is referenced in every single article written about Deen’s diabetes.



Deen told Al Roker that she’s known of the diagnosis for 3 years. And today she launched the new sponsored “Diabetes in a New Light” program with Novo Nordisk.

No Reservations host and Top Chef judge Anthony Bourdain had this to say about her announcement, “When your signature dish is hamburger in between a doughnut, and you’ve been cheerfully selling this stuff knowing all along that you’ve got Type 2 Diabetes… It’s in bad taste if nothing else.”


The Lady’s Brunch Burger from Paula’s – Everything in Moderation cookbook

Also, the Victoza Drug Additional Important Safety Information Page states:

”During the drug testing process, the medicine in Victoza® caused rats and mice to develop tumors of the thyroid gland. Some of these tumors were cancers. It is not known if Victoza® will cause thyroid tumors or a type of thyroid cancer called medullary thyroid cancer in people. If medullary thyroid cancer occurs, it may lead to death if not detected and treated early. If you develop tumors or cancer of the thyroid, your thyroid may have to be surgically removed.”

Sources:  Eater.com and http://www.victoza.com/learn/usage-guidelines.aspx


From bacon and butter to tumors…choose your weapon Paula Deen.  See the full TODAY Show interview below:


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Wow! Paula Deen got famous because of her unhealthy food. She more than likely got diabetes because of it as well. Now she’s found a way to capitalize on it as a “drug dealer” for what sounds like a potentially dangerous diabetes drug. What’s next Paula?

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Lean Dessert Protein Contest!

Contest time! Who doesn’t like FREE? And who doesn’t like DESSERT?! So this is how it works………..tell me your favorite dessert and you’ll be entered to win 2 containers (that’s 36 servings!) of Lean Dessert Protein from BSN Online!

Just make a comment below telling me your favorite dessert and that enters you to win your choice of Lean Dessert flavors. You will also get extra entries for each time you re-post  the contest link on Facebook, Twitter, or any of the WLS forums!




Lean Dessert comes in 6 creamy flavors!

  • Banana Nut Bread
  • Banana Cream Pudding
  • Whipped Vanilla Cream
  • Fresh Cinnamon Roll
  • Chocolate Fudge Pudding
  • Chocolate Coconut


These awesome flavors have a thicker consistency than most proteins. They mix well, and a blender is not needed to have a smooth taste.


I love my protein shakes really cold so I just add unsweetened almond milk and Lean Dessert Protein to my Blender Bottle and shake a few times. Then I put it in the freezer for 30-45 minutes, take it out, and shake again. This way it tastes more like a milkshake than protein shake!

So what are you waiting for? Enter the contest NOW for a chance to win some awesome Lean Dessert Protein!


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PSA: Oopsie! One Million Birth Control Pill Packets Recalled


Well ain’t that some shit?! ONE MILLION PFIZER BIRTH CONTROL PILLS RECALLED! Hope you all didn’t plan on those really working! 😉





One Million Birth Control Pill Packets Recalled

Improper packaging of certain birth control pills manufactured by Pfizer and sold under the Akrimax Pharmaceuticals brand may leave women without adequate contraception, putting them at risk for unintended pregnancy. (Image: FDA)

Pfizer is withdrawing a reported 1 million packets of birth control pills because errors in how the pills were packaged may put women at risk for unintended pregnancy.

The company is recalling 14 lots each of Lo/Ovral-28 (norgestrel and ethinyl estradiol) Tablets and Norgestrel and Ethinyl Estradiol Tablets (generic), intended for customers in the US market. The tablets were manufactured and packaged by Pfizer and marketed by Akrimax Rx Products under the Akrimax Pharmaceuticals brand. These products are packaged in blister packs containing 21 tablets of active ingredients and 7 tablets of inert ingredients. Adequate contraception depends on a woman taking the proper pills in a designated sequence.

The products were distributed to warehouses, clinics, and retail pharmacies nationwide.

In an investigation, Pfizer found that some blister packs may not contain the proper number of inert or active ingredient tablets and that some of the tablets might be out of sequence. As a result, the daily regimen for these oral contraceptives may be incorrect and could leave women without adequate contraception and at risk for unintended pregnancy. Pfizer said that women who took the recalled pills should begin using a nonhormonal form of contraception immediately and urged patients who have taken the recalled medications to notify their physicians and return any unused tablets to the pharmacy.

Any adverse events that may be related to the use of these products should be reported to Akrimax Medical Information at 1-877-509-3935 (8 AM to 7 PM Central standard time, Monday through Friday) or to the US Food and Drug Administration’s MedWatch Program either online, by regular mail, or by fax. For regular mail, use the postage-paid, preaddressed Form FDA 3500; to fax, dial 1-800-FDA-0178 (1-800-332-0178).

Information about the lot numbers of the affected packets of birth control pills can be found here.

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DaVinci Gourmet Sugar Free $5 Off Valentines Discount!

You know how much I love the DaVinci Gourmet sugar free syrups! I’ve even done a few product reviews on here of some of the flavors:

DaVinci Gourmet Sugar Free Cookie Dough Syrup

DaVinci Gourmet Sugar Free German Chocolate Cake Syrup


Well DaVinci is now offering a Valentines special for $5 off two of their featured syrups through the end of February!


Come Valentine’s Day, our recipe box is brimming with decadent flavors. Fall in love with a Cherry Kiss Mocha. Try to resist a Sugar Free Chocolate-Dipped Strawberry Steamer. Revel in a White Chocolate Milkshake. Just remember to make enough to share! And because we love you, enjoy $5 OFF any 2 featured syrups through the end of February 2012.

Featured Recipes

White Chocolate Milkshake

Elegantly simple, we heart White Chocolate Milkshakes. Enjoy them after a romantic evening out or curled up on the couch together. They’re also delicious with Sugar Free syrup!

Sugar Free Peanut Butter Caramel Decadence

How to describe this creamy blend of sweet and salt? Probably “spoonfuls of heaven.” The best part is you can whip it up quick—good news since you’ll want seconds.

Cherry Kiss Mocha

Tall, dark and lovable. That’s how we’d describe this rich mix of espresso, chocolate and juicy, red cherry. Spoil your loved ones with a cupful—and while you’re at it, spoil yourself.

St. Valentine’s Delight Italian Soda

Got a passion for Passion Fruit? Share the love with your Valentine. This sweetly exotic soda simply sparkles with flavor. It’s like a tropical getaway in a glass.

Sugar Free Chocolate-Dipped Strawberry Steamer

Who doesn’t adore rich, juicy chocolate-dipped strawberries? Capture the essence of this much-loved classic with our easy-to-brew steamed milk confection.
Get $5 OFF any 2 featured syrups. Simply enter promotion code 1202VDat checkout to receive your discount.Please note: This discount will be applied to your order only when the code is used, so please be sure to enter 1202VD in the appropriate field when placing your order. Offer valid from 2/1/12 to 2/29/12. May be used in conjunction with our quantity discount of 10% off 12 or more bottles.

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Sara Ramirez-Getting Over Myself: I’m a Size 12 in a Size 0 Town

I love Sara Ramirez! She’s gorgeous and an awesome actress. Me being Formerly Fluffy, I never noticed her size. I commented to my daughter about how cute she was on Grey’s Anatomy one night and my daughter said “she’s kind of chunky”. I guess when you are used to being a smaller size these things stick out more to you. I had never thought of her as “big” prior to that.

And by most standards she is “average”. However when you make your living as an actress and competing against anorexic, nazi concentration camp survivor look alikes ……….I guess she does appear “chunky”.

Chunky? Maybe. Adorable? Definitely! Sara Ramirez rocks her size 12 body!



Getting Over Myself: I’m a Size 12 in a Size 0 Town

How Grey’s Anatomy star Sara Ramirez put an end to her dangerous cycle of diet pills and yo-yo eating.
*As told to Laurie Sandell


When I was eight, my parents divorced and my mother and I moved to San Diego from Mexico. Between the culture shock of coming from another country and the stigma of having an accent (I heard my share of “Do you have a green card?” jokes), I always felt like I stuck out. On top of all that, I was a lot taller and bigger-boned than most girls my age. My mom did a great job of raising me; this story is not about her. But I think she was very critical of her own body and projected that onto me. There were times when she felt she needed to lose 20 pounds, and therefore I also needed to lose 20 pounds. The mentality was, we should lose weight. As a result, I grew up wanting to look like someone else rather than appreciating the body I had.

Then in tenth grade, my teachers found out I could sing, and the seas parted. I got cast in my first musical and was suddenly catapulted into this place where I was getting a lot of attention, admiration and praise. I even got accepted to The Juilliard School, a prestigious performing arts school in New York City.

The school was full of actresses, singers, dancers…and a lot of them had eating disorders. For me, the body-image issues came in waves. I would diet hard-core, lose a lot of weight and feel really good about myself. Then I would have moments of unhappiness. My way of dealing was to eat and eat and eat; I’d gain lots of weight and feel really crappy. Somewhere along the line, all the self-esteem I’d felt went out the window. My weight constantly yo-yoed—at my slimmest I was a size 6; my biggest, a 14.

Right before graduation, I was cast in Paul Simon’s Broadway musical, The Capeman—the story of a Puerto Rican gangster in New York City. It was one of my bigger phases, but people were so supportive of my singing that size didn’t matter. (I do remember an agent or a casting director I met saying that, when it came to weight, “New York tends to be more forgiving than Hollywood.” I thought, wow, that’s interesting, what exactly are they forgiving me for?) The truth is, unlike TV and film cameras, the theater stage doesn’t add 10 pounds.

After the musical ended, I made a conscious decision to break into television. I basically starved myself, living on a stick of celery, some peanut butter and two protein shakes a day and working out. Sure enough, I lost 25 pounds and booked a TV pilot—scary, because it was almost like a reward for treating myself in an unhealthy way. The pilot was not picked up though; eventually I fell back into a regular eating pattern.

Then I decided to move to L.A. to see if I could land more roles. When I walked into an audition room, there would be a lot of petite women with giant boobs. I was almost always the largest girl there. The pressure to be thinner got to me immediately. My old insecurities came flooding back. I started taking these crazy diet pills. They came in a blue bottle that said “ephedra-free.” I didn’t know what was in there (maybe caffeine?), but I did know they were horrible for me. They made my heart race. After six months, my body had had enough. I could feel myself getting shakier, and I grew more and more scared knowing I was putting my heart in danger. Addiction runs in my family—my grandfather was an alcoholic—and realizing that I was getting hooked on the pills was difficult for me. So I just stopped. I threw out the pill bottle. I was still vulnerable, still hating myself, but I had definitely taken a step toward a healthier place.

May 2004, I got cast [as the female lead] in the musical Spamalot and moved back to New York. We did eight shows a week. It was the most I’ve ever had to sing, so I learned to take care of my voice—a lot of sleep, a lot of rest, a lot of water. But it turned into more than just taking care of my voice. It was taking care of all of me. I started to eat when I was hungry and to not eat when I wasn’t. I took yoga classes and got healthy. The show gave me confidence that had nothing to do with how I looked; I won a 2005 Tony Award for that role.

Now I’m a regular on Grey’s Anatomy as orthopedic surgeon Dr. Callie Torres. On the set, there’s catered food everywhere you look—I gained 25 pounds in four months! My energy level was low and I felt unhealthy, so I decided to get a trainer. What’s funny is no one from the show ever  said, “You’re getting a little heavy.” Instead they wrote scenes for me to dance around half-naked in my underwear! I went to the executive producer, and said, “Do you really want me to do this? Why me? I have so much cottage cheese here and there!” She just looked at me and said, “Work it.” That was all I got from her. And sure enough, doing that scene helped me get over a lot of my issues. I had to accept my body.

And now? I’m not going to lie: I still have days when I walk by the mirror  and think, oh God, I didn’t just see that! But I’ve learned to stop myself and ask, am I being realistic? What is it I love about my body? What am I grateful for? The answers to those questions remind me that I’m very blessed.

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Product Review: Arctic Zero Gluten Free Whey Protein Ice Cream!

After hearing LIPO‘s Frank Surace rave about the gluten free, whey protein ice cream from Arctic Zero I asked him to write a product review on it. It’s also low cal!



Who doesn’t love ice cream? Frozen custard? Frozen yogurt?  Sorbet?  Gelato?  I love all of these frozen treats, but since my weight loss  surgery (Roux-en-Y) do they love me? Not so much.

So I’ve been on a mission. Find a good tasting “ice cream” type of dessert that’s low in calories, high in flavor. I’ve looked high, I’ve looked low and now I don’t have to look anymore. This week I found Arctic Zero, an all-natural, smooth and creamy ice cream replacement that tastes great plus it’s  guilt-free when it comes to fat and calories. Arctic Zero is a frozen protein shake that will satisfy your ice cream craving.


Arctic Zero comes in pints and bars.

The pints come in 7 flavors….Chocolate, Chocolate Peanut Butter, Coffee, Cookies & Cream, Mint Chocolate Cookie, Strawberry, and Vanilla Maple. Each pint is only 150 calories. Yep, only 150 calories for a whole pint!

The bars come in 4 flavors (vanilla, chocolate, strawberry and orange cream). They are only 85 calories per bar.



Only 85 Calories per Bar!


Arctic Zero is gluten free, fat free, contains no sugar alcohols. It is suitable for lactose intolerants and has a low glycemic index making  it suitable for Type 2 diabetics. And here’s the best part: Each pint has 14 grams of  Whey protein and 8 grams of Fiber.

nutrition facts
85 Calorie Nutrition Facts

But how do they taste you  ask? So, ok, I’ll tell you.

I tried the Vanilla Bar and the Coffee ice cream.

The Vanilla bar  whey protein ice cream was awesome.  It was a nice size ice cream bar that has a chocolate covering. It had no after taste but more importantly, after I finishing, I felt that I had just eaten a “real” ice cream bar…and I was satisfied.

The Coffee ice cream was amazing. I would recommend that you keep it out of the freezer for a while, allowing it to melt a bit. It’s smooth and has a nice texture. I scooped a little into my bowl, then a little more. Before I knew it I had eaten over ½ the pint. But here’s the great part…that was only about 80 calories.

So if you’re like me and love frozen treats, you have got to try Arctic Zero!


And you know the Arctic Zero gluten free whey protein ice cream product review  wouldn’t be Frank’s Place if we didn’t have a song, so…….(purple, my favorite color…lol)


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Dances With Fat Blog: Stealing Weight Loss Dreams

I read this post recently by an awesome blogger named Ragen Chastain. Ragen has the blog Dances With Fat. Ragen is a blogger that tells it like it is, although that is not always the popular thing to do. Some people prefer the more subdued “polite” approach. I, like Ragen, prefer the more direct “IT IS WHAT IT IS” approach.

Well her recent post about “Stealing Dreams” hit very close to home.

She was accused of “stealing people’s dreams” because she talks about the statistic that 95% of people attempting long term weight loss fail. I have often been accused of stealing dreams as well when I quote stats, reports, or even my own personal experience with the Lap-Band. The stats may not be what you want them to be, but IT IS WHAT IT IS.

I know some people are the eternal optimist and prefer only to look at the positive, but you do yourself and others a disservice if you fail to evaluate things realistically!


So whether the subject is weight loss in general, lap-bands, or any other aspect in life, it’s beneficial to evaluate things realistically and go into it with your eyes wide open!


Stealing Dreams



Recently, and not for the first time, I was accused of “stealing people’s dreams” since I talk about the statistic that 95% of people who attempt long term weight loss fail.  I was thinking about this today at Disney World, the”Happiest Place on Earth” and I’m watching people freak out because Disney fails to meet their unrealistic expectation.

Pro tip: If your child is 3 and accustomed to a routine that includes naps, sitting, downtime, and food containing protein, then no amount of cotton candy and character photo ops is likely to stop a complete meltdown when you try to keep him awake all day while walking 20 miles. This is not Disney’s fault, they are not stealing anyone’s vacation dreams, people have the option to dream realistically and, if they don’t, they will have to deal with the screaming, stomping, pouting consequences.

I am very vocal about the mountain of research showing that long term weight loss is nearly impossible.  Because of this I get accused a lot of trying to “steal people’s weight loss dreams”.  People criticize me for this despite the fact that I am very clear that people have every right to choose dieting just like I have every right to choose health at every size, and that I only talk about these things in my forum – I never go to weight loss sites and tell people that they should make a different choices.  But that does not mean that I’m not going to tell the truth in my forum.

The people who sew in the tag that says “Cape does not enable user to fly” are not stealing my dreams of flying.  They are giving me the opportunity to read the tag so I can make an informed decision before I yell “Hey y’all watch this!”, jump off a roof and break something I’ll need in later life.

But back to weight loss, what is the dream really?  Is it being smaller, or is it all the things that you believe will come along with that.  Consider these sentences:

  • I started eating healthier and exercising, I lost weight, and now I feel better.
  • I lost weight, I started going to more parties and now I have more friends.
  • I lost weight, I became more confident and then I met my spouse.

You could remove “I lost weight” from each of these sentences and they could still be complete. The reality for 95% of dieters is that if they keep the “I lost weight” in the sentences, then they will will need to add a sentence at the end that starts “Now that I’ve re-gained the weight…” That makes me think that we might want to come up with different dreams:

  • I dream of a world where people can see the beauty in bodies of all sizes.
  • I dream of a world where health care professionals base their advice on the scientific evidence available.
  • I dream of a world where we pour sixty billion dollars a year into successful health programs instead failed weight loss programs, where the US is a successful role model for having access to health,  rather than a failed role model for making everyone thin.

If someone’s dream is weight loss, then the research shows that they have almost no chance of achieving it, and yet there’s a huge chance of ending up less healthy than they started.  If their dream is health, then there is more and more research that shows that healthy habits will lead to better health, even if they don’t lead to weight loss.

A dieter once commented on a piece that I wrote saying “I know that I only have a 5% chance of succeeding, but I’m hoping and praying to be in that 5% because, really, what else makes sense?”  You can choose hope and prayer as a health strategy and it’s a legitimate life choice.  But it’s not the only thing that makes sense. To me focusing on healthy behaviors makes sense. Choosing a path to health based on research makes sense.  Choosing a path to health that has a chance of succeeding outside the margin of error makes sense to me.

Now it’s up to you to decide what makes sense to you, dream your dreams, and make your choices.


*Be sure to check out Ragen’s (kick ass blogger!) blog Dances With Fat and great posts like Stealing Dreams and many more!

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